I dating my best friend ex boyfriend

Okay, I'm about to admit something that *no* girl ever should. We were never really official but there were definitely sparks that flew between us. The rule I ignored was talking to your friend about it first. But even though my BFF and I are as tight as ever (c'mon, chicks before dicks), there are some things I should have asked myself before I went down the dangerous road of liking her former significant other. And so did my best friend's other friends, when they told her that her boyfriend had a crush on me. He was one of my best friends but every time I was with him, I had this nagging curiosity. "The sad truth is I never really considered how all of this would affect my friend. There's a definite girl code you should abide by when you're dating.Well, karma got me and someone dated my ex a few years later. You may be together for a hot minute and in the process you will probably ruin your friendship.

Not only was she a little bit older than me but she was skinnier and allowed to do things my parents didn't allow me to do.

So I'm not going to lie: The allure of her ex-boyfriend I liked him. But, hey, at fifteen and sixteen years old, you aren't that intellectual yet. If you're a teenager, chances are this isn't the boy you're going to spend your life with.

And even though I "kinda, sorta" broke that rule, I'm not a terrible person, and I'm tired of being shamed for breaking a rule that doesn't even actually exist. After that day, we never spoke to each other again (except for once, when literally 3 text messages were exchanged).

She and I were close for a few years, a couple of which were when she was with said boyfriend, until one day we got into an argument which turned into a huge blowout.

I'm sure you all will date someone's ex at some point, heck many of you are dating one right now as you're reading this.

Whether you know your significant other's exes personally or not, there's no need to shame someone for dating an ex, because in the end, everyone's got one.There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. What they are doing is really uncool and unacceptable. Your ex and "your friend" are the ones who should feel stupid, NOT YOU! Their relationship is working because of the "scandalous and forbidden" element. When that wears off, and everyone in the community moves on to the next piece of gossip, and your ex and your friend really get to know each other, the appeal will fade. He or she could be doing this to you to act out his or her passive aggressive anger. Our friendship, although it always felt like something more, lasted for nearly 10 years.

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